The Magpies boss is desperate to avoid the same fate of the last Geordie to manage his hometown club.
Carver was in between spells at Newcastle six years ago but can still recall his own despair when Aston Villa sent them crashing through the trapdoor.
But he knows it was infinitely worse for the man in charge that afternoon.
"I remember seeing Alan on the pitch," he says. "I was watching in a pub and couldn't speak for more than an hour afterwards.
"All I was thinking was 'I hope that never, ever happens to me.'
"I saw Alan the other day and we talked about what his feelings back then.
"Neither of us want me to experience that."
Carver has had little to smile about since been handed the managerial reins having steered his side to just two wins in his 18 games.
And he knows that even if Newcastle avoid the drop tomorrow either by beating West Ham or matching Hull's result against Manchester United, it won't lift the gloom which has enveloped St James' Park for much of the season.
Skipper Fabricio Coloccini, Jonas Gutierrez, Ryan Taylor and Tim Krul were all in the squad at Villa Park the last time they were relegated.
Carver had considered asking them to relive the heartache with their team-mates but instead has been hammering home to his players how much they stand to lose if they go down.
"I didn't ask the likes of Colo and Jonas to talk about that day at Villa specifically but I talked about their experiences and how they had to deal with what came next because it wasn't nice," he added.
"I've shown them something to reinforce what it's like to be in the Premier League compared to the next division down - Old Trafford, The Emirates and Stamford Bridge compared to some lesser clubs with smaller changing rooms and all that.
"I did consider showing them the fans after that Villa game but decided against it because if you can't motivate yourself for a game like this, when you've got so much to play for, then it's not going to make any different."
Carver will stay in touch with what's happening at the KC Stadium but knows that if Newcastle can pick up their first win since February, Hull will be relegated.
"There are no second chances now," he said. "This is our last game, the cup final we have all been talking about.
"We're in this situation and we have to deal with it.
"Six years ago, it wasn't in our hands but Hull would love to be in our shoes this time.
"However, I feel we've got to beat West Ham. If we win, we take care of our own business without any help from elsewhere."
